Here is a paragraph from a recent New York Times story about Judge Sonia Sotomayor:
James R. Levine, a New York lawyer who clerked for Judge Sotomayor in 2001-2, recalled that during his interview with her as a law student, the first question she asked was about himself and his family, while every other judge with whom he interviewed had first asked about issues like the topic of his law review note. The interview would turn intellectually rigorous, he said, but first she wanted to get to know him as a person.
Can you imagine the outcry if a male judge asked personal questions of a female applicant? It would be considered sexual harassment.